Intimacy is a word often used in relationships and most couples know of it but really don’t understand what it means. It is a process of getting to know each other in all matters on confidentiality and vulnerability. For people to successfully co-exist, intimacy is necessary.
After the honeymoon phase, it gets hard to reconnect and if you are not careful you will both struggle to stay afloat. So why is intimacy so important?
It is a way of sharing your deepest desires, thoughts and emotions letting your partner know you on a different perspective. It is more of a way to let them understand what makes you behave the way you do. Ever met a couple who complete each other’s sentence? I bet you have and maybe secretly wish you could have that.
The good news is, it is possible but it does not come easy. According to Dr. Jennifer B. Rhodes, licensed psychologist, “Real intimacy comes from letting your guard down and allowing your partner to witness you in a less than stellar light," So how do you achieve that?
Express your emotions
No one is an angel. Your partner can not read your mind, so you need to air your thoughts and feelings. As you do so, be thoughtful and mild to avoid hurting their feelings in the process. You are trying to speak up not start a fight. Be open, and vulnerable.
Create opportunities for bonding
Between busy schedules, jobs, stress, family and friends, sometimes it’s hard to have time to bond. Especially in Long term relationships, couples forget to create time for each other. You can choose days to intentionally chill and do nothing or have the heart to heart talks.
Set realistic expectations
It’s okay to have expectations from your partner but others are not realistic. Also to be fair talk to your special person about it and let them know what is acceptable and what is not. You might be there secretly angry at your partner but they have no idea what it is they did wrong. They are human and have the same expectations towards you. Find a common ground and you’ll both be okay.
Acknowledge their efforts
Most of the things we do for our loved ones go unnoticed. To be fair they might as well be feeling the same about you. Make an effort to show gratitude. Surprise them with an engraved necklace or couple hoodies with thoughtful words. Every time they wear it they will be reminded of how much they mean time.
Allocate some alone time individually
Spending time together is fun is awesome. But with time you can feel suffocated and start resenting your partner. Of course, you don’t want that. Make plans to spend time apart. This way you get to work on you as a person and grow individually. By the end of the day, you’ll appreciate your partner more and understand the importance of their presence in your life.
Successful relationships are the ones that are nurtured. For that to happen, both you and your partner need to put your selfish needs aside and work together towards the same goal.