In today’s evolved society, you could easily argue or lie to yourself that interracial dating isn't a problem. But truth be told, the fact that the term “interracial dating” exists just proves that it is an issue to date outside your race.
It’s just wonderful to see loving couples regardless of their sex, color, origin and background. There is more to understand being in an interracial relationship. Here are some of the things that I can share with you:
1) Be open to discuss things you don’t know
The beauty in interracial relationships and all relationships in general, is the opportunity to learn and grow. Coming from a different background does not make them less a person and you shouldn’t have a different perspective for them. The colorblind approach of not seeing a partner’s race isn’t the right way to go about it. And no wearing matching shirts with sayings like “black lives matter” and such does not automatically make you one of them! Instead, being willing to speak frankly about race is key — it’s an opportunity for couples to become even more honest, more open, and most of all more aware.
2) People will judge you harshly
Unfortunately, interracial relationships are still a target for hatred and ridicule. People have their own reasons for why they believe people should only date within their race and sadly, we will never live in a world where people understand that you love who you love. To be in an interracial relationship is to understand that your relationship will be tested or shunned. What others believe is not fundamental to the success of your relationship. It’s the individual bond that you two build as friends and lovers. That is at the forefront; everything else is irrelevant.
3) Assumptions on fetishes
For some reason, dating a member of another race automatically means that you have a fetish. This is especially true for men of color that date white women: certain people just assume that they have a sexualized obsession with whiteness.
4) What will your kids look like?
People will wonder endlessly (and I mean endlessly) what your children will look like. It doesn’t matter if you’ve expressed no interest in having said children, nor does it matter if you’re not even out of college yet or if you just made your relationship official five days ago. Will your babies have blue eyes, Brown ones, Green or Red hair and dark skin? Will they be neon and glow in the dark? Ha-ha!
5) Interracial dating does not mean not loving your own culture
The idea that a person of color who dates a white person is harboring some kind of self-hatred is a far too simplistic one. Of course, there are instances where issues of self-acceptance may be at play, but this is not a hard and fast rule. No, black men and women who date or marry white partners (especially after being with black people in the past) are not necessarily doing so for status or validation. There are a lot of reasons why people are attracted to other people. If a black person dates someone outside of their race, their “blackness” — and how they feel about it — should not automatically be called into question.